Ramadhan Day 29 : Solok lada refreshes my childhood memory

Assalamualaikum and very good day,

 

Solok Lada....photo by http://dapurmalaysia.com/resepi-solok-lada/

 

 

This post is about yesterday. One of the dishes that I always keen to cook is Solok Lada (Chili filled with mixture of fish's meat, coconut, onion, garlic). It is not due to its delicious taste, but it is due to my big sister. One day when I was back home, my sister said today she would like to cook Solok Lada....that's time I think I still at primary school. Our home during that time just have basic furniture and using wooden stove....no gas stove because my parents unable to effort it during that time. Although without so much household facilities, I really amazed with my big sister with her willingness to cook. She never complain neither sad with that condition.....lives must go on and on......kekurangan bukan halangan to live a happy life.

 

When my big sister said she want to cook Solok Lada, I was really excited because I never cook that before. Actually, we lived in different home. She lived with my biological parents and I was adopted by my uncle/auntie. I lived in comfortable life at my uncle/auntie home...they are wealthy people in our village. So that day, I helped my big sister cooked Solok Lada, I separated fish's meats from its bone (mengasingkan isi ikan dari tulangnya) and when the solok mixture finished, we have been put that mixture together inside chili (Lada). The last parts that I like most is when my big sister said....now we have access mixture, jom kita kepal bulat2 dan buat meatball..:). After that, we cooked those chilies + fishmeatball with santan kelapa. Then we ate that solok lada/fishmeatball with rice for that day lunch....what a simple lunch but yum....yum....delicious.

 

Note :

 

1. The chillies were from my ayah (father) farm. He expert in growing chilli

After that, I did not have so much opportunity to cook with my big sister anymore. She went to MRSM after form 3 and I went to boarding school after standard 6. You see....kekurangan/kemiskinan bukan penghalang untuk berjaya dalam pelajaran....My big sister did it. She has been graduated with degree in accountancy....Now, she live in happy life with her husband and two sons....will be added one more child in near future.

 

Yesterday, my big sister was not at home. She celebrated Eid at her husband village....Kedah. As per I said earlier...I always keen to cook Solok Lada, however the opportunity never come because I did not know how to cook it.....sometimes, it is difficult to get suitable chili. The chili that suitable for Solok Lada is big chili in pale green color.

 

Alhamdulillah, in day 29 of Ramadhan this year, the opportunity came. My Maa (mother) willing to cook it with me. Thus, I went to wet market and bought all the necessary ingredients. During preparing the solok mixture and cooking, my mind was refreshing past memory...:the sad and happy parts come slide by slide. How hardlife of our family has been transform to better life now....Alhamdulillah, we never know the plan of Allah. How our small home has been transformed to a comfortable home now......

 

The lesson learnt I get here is:-

 

1. When we are in difficult situation...please do not give up but do our best. Admit our kekurangan and be grateful on what we have and strive for better life. If you give up, you will not improve and in fact you will be 'rugi' for not to live to the fullest
2. When we are in comfortable situation....please do not be arrogant to other peoples and furthermore to Allah. Help other peoples, reflection (muhasabah) and grateful to Allah
3. Don't judge people by it cover...:). Tak semestinya org yg dibesarkan dalam keadaan yg serba cukup itu lebih baik/lebih competent/lebih knowledgeable dari org yg dibesarkan dalam keadaan serba kekurangan. Ini penting sebab in future jika Allah izinkan saya akan menjadi seorg isteri/ibu. Sebagai ibu, kita biasanya nak kelengkapan yg terbaik untuk anak2 sehinggakan berlebihan memanjakan mereka.
4. Cooking is life skill & family bonding

Ramadhan for 2013/1434H has been ended yesterday. In term of ibadah, I gained less than last year....in term of self reflection, sabar (patient), be a better daughter I think I gained more than last year.

She

She thinking of resigning...however she cant because of other people. She need to be there to solve the problem, to become change agent & to motivate other people. She like people and she like to see the happy face of other people. Thus, how come to leave them? She cannot leave them although she need to sacrifice a lot...her interest, her preferences as a woman, her quality time with family.

She who always unable to attend social gathering at office due to she prefer to be at home with her mum.

She who always tried to persuade her mum to allow her to go out for tarbiyyah & dakwah (D&T)activities. She who always figure out idea....how to let her mum allow her go out..:)

She who now really want to learn on technical thing because she need to stand by her own feet when the technical problem comes.

Makan hati berulam jantung

Alkisahnya terjadi semasa morning meeting, seorang lelaki meninggikan suara kepada rakan sekerja perempuan. Terkejutlah rakan sekerja perempuan tersebut sbb benda itu tidak pernah berlaku di tempat kerja lamanya…..namun dia cuba mengawal keadaan dgn berkata “Ok2…”.

Hatinya bergegar bila mendengar amarah itu…..sepanjang meeting terfikir2 tentang perkara itu. Cuba berfikiran positif yang rakan sekerja lelaki itu bertegas supaya kerja jalan. Namun hatinya tetap pecah berkeping-keping seperti gelas yang dihempas ke lantai. Berfikir sepanjang hari bagaimana utk bertemu muka dgn rakan sekerja itu di masa hadapan….sungguh dia tidak bersedia. Bukan dia tidak menyukai rakan sekerja itu cuma dia segan kerana peristiwa itu.

She think that guy is a good guy and helpful....but quite garang. Mungkin that guy pun menyesal because unintentionally burst his angriness to a woman this morning. Tapi a guy susah nk minta maaf. She know she is not good in managing that job...but she hope that guy will ask for forgiveness for raising voice towards her.

Setiap orang berbeza…..nmpaknya perempuan itu sgt sensitive……pemendam.

The weekends is coming, hopefully she can cool down and happy throughout the weekends and become neutral again.

 

Whatever is it, she will pretend that thing not happen and communicate as good friend as per before.

Catatan hari ke-14 Ramadhan 2013

Salam and Good Day,

Saya baru resume balik puasa setelah diberi cuti oleh Allah selama 8 hari iaitu dari 15/7-22/7. Dari jumlah itu, sepanjang 5 hari saya berada di ABU platform, Kerteh. Bayangkan hari pertama period di offshore, mmg penat.....hampir2 nk give up utk pergi ke interrig platform, tp since it was very important activity that I need to learn, saya pergi jugak cuma saya rasa saya nmpk mengada2 sket bila saya bgtau technicians..."Saya penat hari ni, saya nk rehat dulu, you all proceed dulu la". Maka tidolah saya dalam satu bilik kecil di dalam control room utk hilangkan kesakitan period pain dan gain energy. Technicians saya pulak mcm understanding yg saya penat sbb kebetulan during that time bad weather & high swell dekat ABU area....hehe. Heran jgk jika kat darat, mesti saya akan ambil cuti bila hari 1st period,kat laut rehat 1 jam ++, lepas tu boleh bangun tgk sitchgear servicing dari jam 9 pg- 1tgahari. Mungkin sbb makan GLA + Ostematrix Shaklee sejak a few weeks ago....jd kesakitan itu tak seteruk sebelum2 ni.

 

Cuma bila dekat2 nk sampai tgahari tu, saya dh rasa tk larat...huhu. Tapi cover2 lah sket sbb kebetulan ada masalah lain plak iaitu aktiviti one of my friend need electrical advice on cable specs. Masa kt offshore tu, amal ibadat amatlah kurang sbb period dan mungkin mood time tu lain sket.....bila duduk sorg2 mesti muhasabah, "Apa aku buat ni? This is Ramadhan, baca mathurat pun tk istiqamah, jgnkan nk sharing dgn org pasal hadis, terjemahan and etc". Hrmm....cabaran utk adapt dgn suasana.

 

On 19/7, balik Kelantan sampai 21/7, mood masih sama, mathurat tk baca pun..:(. Dakwah lagi la tk buat...huhu. Sampai naik risau....akhowat ke ni?

 

22/7, masih period tp teman Mek pergi solat sunat terawih. Saya duduk belakang baca Riyadhus Salihin. Mula2 semangat, lepas tu mengantuk la jgk....hehe. Duduk dgn bermacam gaya supaya tk mengantuk, kaki lurus ke depan la, bersimpuh la.....tp akhirnya terpksa la pejam2 mata sekejap, mungkin penat kat office atau sbb ada kemalasan dlm diri.

 

23/7 iaitu hari ni, saya bangun sahur jam 5 pagi, Mek saya bangun awal lagi 4.30 pg which is saya tk mampu nk bangun seawal itu sbb the night before saya tido dlm jam 12mlm. Mlm ni, masa org solat sunat after Isyak, sementara nk tunggu terawih saya tido sekejap...hehe. Makcik2 kanan kiri semua solat ba'diyah Isyak. Mek saya suruh saya tido kt blkg kalo saya tk larat and skip solat terawih. Dlm hati saya...."Owh no, saya kena kuatkn semangat jgk untuk solat terawih walaupun ngantuk atau lenguh badan mcm2 mana pun". Alhamdulillah, by finishing 8 rakaats terawih and 3 rakaats witir saya rasa diri saya lebih bernilai, seperti lulus ujian ketenteraan, seperti lebih tenang.

 

Lesson learnt:-

 

1. Our iman is up & down
2. If we really cannot do ibadah sunat, take a rest. Quality of ibadah sunat is better than quantity
3. Do not easily give up, if penat sket tu tahanlah
4. Jangan lepaskan peluang utk beribadat kerana kita tidak selalunya sihat & lapang& berpeluang. Jgn menyesal bila kita dh tua/sakit/busy nnti.

 

Keharusan menitikberatkan topik Ikhtilat (Batas pergaulan antara lelaki & wanita)

Salam and Good Day,

 

Istimewanya Islam kerana Islam menggariskan batas-batas tertentu dalam perhubungan antara lelaki dan perempuan, iaitu tidak boleh terlalu bebas. Betapa sucinya perhubungan lelaki dan perempuan dalam Islam. Kedua2 lelaki dan perempuan yang bukan muhrim perlulah menutup aurat seperti yg digariskan semasa berinteraksi antara satu sama lain, perempuan tidak boleh melunakkn suara, tidak boleh bersentuhan dan tidak boleh berdua-duaan di tempat sunyi.

 

Di tempat kerja, Muslimah sering diuji dengan environment terkini yg tidak menjaga ikhtilat sehingga Muslimah keliru apakah tindakan yg harus diambil, samada mengikut rentak org lain, bertegas atau melarikan diri dari hiruk pikuk pergaulan ni?

 

Saya rasa saya juga lately mengalami masalah ini terutamanya di tempat kerja. Bila saya muhasabah sendiri, saya rasa saya perlu membina kekuatan dalaman iaitu dgn memperbanyakkan doa supaya Allah menjaga saya dari menghadapi kesulitan dalam hal2 berkaitan ikhtilat.

 

Bertegas tidak mungkin saya dpt lakukan kerana saya bukan seorg yg tegas, melarikan diri juga tidak sesuai kerana kerja saya memerlukan saya berinteraksi dgn ramai org tk kira lelaki atau perempuan. Jadi, the best thing to do is solat sunat, zikir mathurat, baca Quran, hafazan. Bila hubungan kita dgn Allah mantap, dengan sendiri ketegasan/keberanian/kepetahan kata2 itu terbit dlm diri kita.

 

Menyebut tentang keberanian/ketegasan, saya teringat housemate lama saya As yg menegur officematenya supaya menjarakkn tempat duduknya dari tempat duduk As semasa mereka sedang berurusan dgn sebuah computer yg sama untuk system SAP. Senyum...:), berani dan cepat sekali otak As berfikir untuk meluahkan kata2 yg sesuai...:). Moga saya juga boleh sebegitu di masa hadapan.

 

Ikhtilat merupakan symbol keindahan Islam.....jika kita tidak jaga, maka tiada lagilah symbol yg kita bangga2 kan itu, melainkan kita sama shj seperti non-muslim.

 

Wallahu'alam

 

 

Rantau Panjang Kelantan

Salam...

Alhamdulillah, arini smpt visit Rantau Panjang. Saje nk bwk adik + bwk kakak ipar + anak buah jln2 sempena cuti skolah. Bg saya, zon bebas cukai Rantau Panjang tk kurang hebatnya kalo nk dibandingkn dgn Saigon city Vietnam dan Seoul Korea (in term of brg2 yg dijual di market). Cuma Seoul udaranya nyaman, tk panas, lebih tersusun dan cantik. Harga RP dan Saigon lebih kurang sama, RP tkde beg jenama deuter, north face. Kain telekong solat byk kt RP, harganya rm50 sama dgn Saigon. Sy tk sempt nk tgk pinggan mangkuk kt RP td...sbb anak buah sy dh start menangis coz udara sgt panas. Lain kali target nk bli pinggan mangkuk.

 

Ada satu kata2 ttg berjalan ni:-

 

"Berjalanlah kamu melihat alam ciptaan Tuhan agar kamu dpt mengambil pelajaran dan mengutip pengalaman dari tmpt2 yg kamu lawati"

 

Highlight perjalanan kali ni...singgah di masjid beijing...terpegun dgn keindahan rekabentuk. Kerajaan Kelantan nmpknya sgt terbuka dgn rekabentuknya yg seperti di negara Cina. Satu lagi highlight ice cream Baba yg blh didapati di bandar RP.

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Pray more….my dear self

Assalamualaikum…

Today, I felt dishearten with someone. I just wonder why that person cannot tell it properly. I was also emotional and would like to ignore that person…..I did not want to answer to that person or I also want to reply harsh answer. But, hey, it is not professional dear, you should answer professionally. But, I’m tired to be too protocol, too follower. Yeah, I showed a little bit of my rebellious….huhuJ.

Pohon tomato Cameron Highlands...:)

 

I made my own reflection (muhasabah) on that situation. I remember on what I have behold so strong which is a phrase from As Syahid Hassan Al-Banna “Be like a tree, when people throw stone towards you, you will drop them your sweet fruits” “Jadilah seperti pokok, apabila manusia melemparkan batu ke arahnya, dia akan mengugurkan buah2nya yang manis”. Ya Allah, how comes lately I forgot on this phrases. Adakah kelupaan ini merupakan ujian terhadapku yang selalu pandai memberi nasihat kepada orang tetapi bila sampai masaku…aku jua yg turut teremosional. Teringat kata2 Ustazah Norhafizah Musa,  “Ujian bagi orang yang banyak bercakap (banyak member nasihat), ini besar”…J

Aku bermuhasabah lagi, mungkin Allah beri sedikit kepayahan kepadaku dalam pekerjaanku kerana lately, terutamanya sejak aku berpindah ke Kerteh, hubunganku dengan Allah tidak terjaga, puasa sunat kurang, solat sunat kurang, bacaan Quran kurang. Tahajud jauh sekali. Teringat kata2 naqibahku, “Jagalah hubungan dengan Allah, kalau kita ada masalah dengan org, cuba check kembali hubungan kita dengan Allah”…..Upline Shaklee ku sering mengingatku juga supaya banyakkan bertahajud, banyakkan berzikir. Namun kekuatan itu tiada….yeah, mungkin aku kena kuatkan semangat untuk memperbaiki hubungan dengan Allah.

Aku bermuhasabah lagi….aku tidak suka kerjaku, kenapa dulu aku tidak pilih untuk jadi cikgu sahaja…dapat bermain dgn kanak2 dan dapat membuat alat bantu mengajar warna-warni.Tetapi pernahkah aku bangun tengah malam dan mengadu pada Allah supaya Allah berikanlah kepadaku kerjaya yang bersesuaian denganku.

Aku sering risau dengan pergaulanku dengan lelaki samada berdepan atau di alam maya (fb, wassap, phonecall, sms)….risau aku tidak menjadi wanita solehah, risau aku menjadi fitnah dan dosa kepada diri sendiri dan orang lain. Tetapi pernahkah aku bangun di sepertiga malam, mengadu kepada Allah, jagalah akhlakku di mana sahaja aku berada dan janganlah jadikan aku seperti apa yg ditulis di dalam Quran, “Wanita2 yang melunakkn suaranya untuk menarik perhatian lelaki”. Ya Allah, hamba-Mu bakal pergi ke tengah laut tidak lama lagi, Engkau jagalah akhlak hamba-Mu ini. Titiskan setitis ketegasan Asiah, isteri Firaun ke dalam jiwaku bila mana daku berurusan dengan kaum adam, Asiah yang tegas, namun tidaklah garang tidak bertempat, memilih syurga berbanding istana Firaun. Titiskanlah setitis ketegasan Asma’ binti Abu Bakar r.a ke dalam diriku setiap kali aku berurusan dengan kaum adam, Asma’ yang tegas namun penuh kasih saying, bonda pahlawan Abdullah bin Zubair r.a, isteri setia kepada Zubair bin Awwam r.a. Asma’ yang berhasil dalam setiap pekerjaannya. Moga urusanku di offshore nanti juga berhasil…J

Nampaknya setakat itu sahaja post kali ni.